If you're against bullying draw a purple or black ribbon/bow on your lower thumb/palm.
Bullying should NOT be legal, it's a crime, a hate crime. No one should have to go through bullying, it is truly one of the worst things and can lead to many things such as depression, self harm and even at the worst kids and teens taking there own life which should never happen, but sadly according to the World Health Organization nearly a million people worldwide commit suicide each year, more than 70% because of bullying and cyber bullying.
Think about what you say! You could be the reason someone takes their own life.

12th January 2013

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12th January 2013

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Anonymous said: hey, I'm lesbian and I really want to come out to my mum but I'm not really sure how to put it or when to say it and I'm afraid she will think I am doing stuff with any of my female friends I have over because she's just that type of person idek :/

Hey Lovely,
Just come straight out and tell her, in my opinion it doesn’t really matter how you put it as long as you do actually tell her.. There’s no point in hiding your sexuality from anyone, especially your Mother.
If you’re truly worried about her thinking you’re going to do stuff with your friends just tell her that you’re interested in girls but you would never do anything with your female friends unless you liked them in that way and they liked you back.

Hope I could help xo. 

12th January 2013

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Anonymous said: hi your blog is amazing and i need your help, my friend is cutting herself and saying she is fat when she is really skinny, she is currently trying to loose more weight and it has gotten to far. The only problem with this is she says to everyone she exercises daily but i know she doesn't she also says she eats nothing but she does eat. I think that she is ding it for attention and so do all my friends because she even tells people she cuts herself. what should i do ?

Thank you Sweetheart.

Sit her down and talk to her about, tell her that you think that it’s getting to far; tell her how you feel, maybe even discuss Anorexia.

How do you know that she doesn’t exercise daily and that she does eat? 

Maybe she is doing it for attention, you never know.. She might even be trying to gain attention from you and your group of friends because she feels that she doesn’t get enough or any attention at home.

Also, she could be telling people that she self harms purely because she wants help and she wants you and whoever she’s telling to try and help her get the help she needs.

Hope I could help, xo. 

9th November 2012

Question

Anonymous said: Yeah it got so bad i thought the only way to get through it was to self harm, at the time i didnt realise it was that bad i didnt it once and swore to my self that i would never do it again. To this day these girls think they are my friends but really i will never feel like i used to. I dont know who i am any more, i am always scared and worried that i am going to lose who i have i am writing this annomys because im not sure but u might know me thank u for being the only person to listen <3

Hey Precious,
I already answered the fist part of your question, but I just thought that I would add on to what I said.. If by any chance I do know you, I would love you to come off Anonymous and message me on Tumblr (or Facebook, if you have me!) and I will do my best to help you.

I don’t judge anyone and never will.
Stay strong Beautiful, xo. 

9th November 2012

Question

Anonymous said: hi i really want to talk to someone i think i added u on facebook please add me

Hey Gorgeous, 
I never got a friend request on Facebook from anyone called Callie Molt, maybe try adding me again? I would be more that happy to talk to you, even message me off of Anon on Tumblr and I WILL reply privately.
Hope you’re doing okay, xo. 

9th November 2012

Question

Anonymous said: Hi , this isnt generally about bullying but it could lead to it. All my friends now are starting to drink and go to too many parties and not really taking into considersation how I feel. I do not what to get into that stuff but theres nothing really I can do about it. I get hate about it(me not drinking and drugs and stuff) i dont mind that but do I find new friends or just deal with the fact that they make their own decisions and mistakes and theres nothing i can do about it! thanks!

Hey Lovely,
I know exactly how you feel! I think that it’s perfectly fine that you don’t want to go out and do drugs and drink at party’s, in fact, I applaud you for that! 
There will always be people who will judge you for your life decisions, but it’s your life and you get to make your own decisions, right?  
Maybe have a talk to the people giving you hate about it, just explain your reasons and tell them that it’s your choice, NOT theirs and that they shouldn’t be judging you on your own, personal decisions and if they don’t understand, I would try and make new friends that accept you for you and your choices. Make friends with people who are going to make you feel good and not bring you down.
Good luck, xo. 

17th October 2012

Question

Anonymous said: a girl i liked used me for money, and when other people told me she would spread rumors about me behind my back i stopped buying her stuff and shes now spread heaps of lies what do i do

The best thing to do is to try and ignore the rumors being spread about you, maybe go and talk to this girl about what she spread and just try and clear everything up, but if it keeps on happening tell someone that can really help, xx.
 

17th October 2012

Question

Anonymous said: Hi i have been bullied in the past and i found it unbearably hard, i never know what to do any more. It got to a point where i had no one i even thought that god was turning on me. I thought why did u chose me to go through this. It was mainly girls, they put me down every single day no stopping. Even when i went to the bathroom they followed me and asked me why i was crying, as if they didnt know. Sometimes they laughed and said your so weak. It got so bad i just wanted it to stop,read on

Hi Beautiful,
I’m so incredibly sorry that this has happened to you, no one deserves to be bullied and I know how much it sucks! 
As for God turning on you, I want you to know that He will NEVER turn on you.. God give his toughest battles to His strongest worriers.
Please stay strong and never do anything to harm yourself, self harm is only a temporary pain release and it won’t make the pain caused from bullying go away! Talk to someone about self harm, that is if you’re still doing it and they should be able to help you, I know it’s a tough battle but eventually everything will be ok again and you won’t have to worry. Everything will be okay and it it’s not okay, it’s not the end! 

P.s. If I know you, please come of Anonymous, message me on something else like Facebook or even come up to me and talk to me at school, that is if you feel comfortable with that.
I will always be here for you,
Stay strong and remember that I love you, xx ♥ 

17th October 2012

Question

Anonymous said: I hope you are making a difference with blog is beautiful stay strong beautiful girl <3 xx

Thank you so much Gorgeous, x.

4th June 2012

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Bullying - Amy Đj & Mel Đj (The X-Factor 2011 Contestants)

Heeey Guys!
So I was lucky enough to score some time to talk with the amazing Amy and Mel Đj (also known as ‘Up Front’) about their experiences with bullying.

So first of all I would like to thank Amy and Mel for agreeing to answer some questions for this blog, I’m SOOO unbelievably grateful!
Thank you Amy and Mel, it truly means the world to me!

Amy and Mel are truly amazing, so kind and have been through a lot! 
And if you haven’t already make sure you check out their YouTube channel which I will link below.

YouTube - http://www.youtube.com/user/UpFrontTwins?feature=watch

So without further ado, here are the Q&As.

                                               Amy Đj  

 Q1. Have you ever been bullied? And if you feel comfortable sharing, what impact and effects did it have on your life?

I unfortunately have been bullied, quite severely all through high school – literally year 7 – 12. The impact it has had on my life is that I find it hard to approach people and to open up to others straight away because I think everyone else will treat me just as bad as they did. Although I am getting over it as I get older and have finished school it still has affected me but in a way dealing with such horrible people has made me a stronger person.

Q2. What would you say to anyone being bullied? Do you have any advice for kids and teens getting bullied?

 
I would say to them as hard as it is to ignore it, try too. It’s a very good skill to have to be honest. If you are being bullied you just have to keep your head high because in reality they are trying to bring you down because you have something they don’t have and their pretty much jealous. Bullies will never admit their jealous but its jealousy that influences the hate.

Q3. How can anyone being bullied reach out and talk to someone about it?


If people are being bullied they should talk to someone about it whether it be a friend, parent, employer, teacher, anyone and bullying should always be pushed to get fixed because it is just not right. If it continues you should leave the place where it’s happening because it is affecting your quality of life and you do not want to let disgusting people like that destroy you.

Q4. Do you have anything you would like to say to bullies?


I guess what I’d like to say to bullies is “why are you so mean?” because they can’t answer it due to the fact they won’t say “because your pretty, I’m jealous of you, I have no reason I’m just a horrible person.” Also, why focus your time trying to make other people miserable? Their lives must be pretty sad to hate on you but in a way it’s kind of a compliment – you are worth so much to them to actually focus on you and pay you attention where as I’m pretty sure you would never ever focus your precious time on people like that.

                                    

                                             Mel Đj

Q1. Have you ever been bullied? And if you feel comfortable sharing, what impact and effects did it have on your life?

I have been bullied and it made me miserable from year 7 to 12. I was scared of what was going to happen at school the next day and I went to numerous teachers to stop it and they didn’t. I pretended to be sick to stay home from school and in year 12 they vandalised my car, I was furious, I went to the principle and he said that he can’t do anything and that me ignoring and avoiding people is harassment. I now find it very hard to approach people because I don’t have the confidence that they are nice, I feel like they will be horrible to me just like they were at school.

Q2. What would you say to anyone being bullied? Do you have any advice for kids and teens getting bullied?

Being bullied, I’d give the advice that they should ignore the bullies. They should go to teachers, parents anyone who is able to sort the situation out. If its cyber bullying they should print screen the nasty comments for proof and go to a teacher. If they are comfortable confronting the bullies, they should do that too. It works. Trust me.

Q3. How can anyone being bullied reach out and talk to someone about it?

A person who is being bullied should talk to people they feel comfortable with about the situation at hand, weather it is their best friend, older sibling, parent or teacher. They should go to a person who they confide in and that person can help them with situations, if they don’t think they can talk to anybody about it they should call the kids help line.

Q4. Do you have anything you would like to say to bullies?

To the bullies I’d like to say that they are the most unpleasant people to be around. They need to focus on themselves and STOP pointing out the flaws on other people because they have the worst flaw of all. I would say that whether they like it or not, bullying is usually UNPROVOKED and that they are jealous. To me jealousy is the ugliest trait one can hold. There’s a point that they take things too far. If you think somebody is ugly, keep it to yourself, if you hate someone, ignore them. Bullies, I really don’t know how to talk to them because they are a different type of human being. Heartless, nasty, disgusting, scum of the earth. Some push people to suicide; they should be put in jail for a life sentence. I don’t like to hate anybody but I would never give a bully the time of day to say all these things to, hence why I am writing it here because this is an amazing cause.

I would like to say that anybody who is being bullied can always reach out to me and Amy on Twitter or Facebook because we’ve been there and know what it’s like.

People who are not bullies are beautiful. There are so many victims of bullies, so you’re not alone. Bullies are weak, worthless, sad lonely people. Make sure YOU can walk away thinking “I am sooooooo glad I am nothing like them”

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